Kate Engler, LMFT, Owner/Therapist

I take a relational approach to ALL of my work because, as humans, we are wired to connect with others. Relationships are critical to overall wellness, health and healing. I find the things that bring clients into therapy are those that most deeply impact their interactions with the people closest to them.  

 

We all have the innate ability to affect positive change in our lives, but there are times when we need a caring professional to guide the way to becoming “unstuck.” Often, life experiences and patterns in our past contribute to the roadblocks that keep us stuck in our current lives and relationships. I help couples and individuals uncover the things that get in the way of fulfillment.  

 

While the strategies I use are all rooted in evidence-based research and theory, being human is my most important tool. My first order of business is always to gain an understanding of each person’s lived experience. What feels horrible and intolerable to me is not the same thing that feels horrible and intolerable to anyone else—including my partner.

 

I want to know what it’s really like to be in your life and relationships, without judgment. From there, I bring in theoretical principles to help explain and normalize what might be underlying the issues at hand. (Spoiler alert: It’s fairly unlikely that it is because you are losing your mind or are a horrible person.)


Much of my work focuses on addressing challenges resulting from life transitions, infidelity, and physical, sexual, or emotional disconnection. Through the therapy process, clients and I work collaboratively to identify interaction patterns, build skills to cope with relationship distress, and deepen understanding of both the individuals and/or their partners.

 

​I am LGBTQIA affirming and I value race, culture, and gender as critical parts of all of our identities.

Specialties

  • Relationship Counseling (couple and individual)

  • Infidelity Counseling

  • Intentional Separation

  • Discernment Counseling

  • Divorce Coaching

  • Sex Positive Therapy

  • Trauma-Informed Therapy

  • EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing)

Training

  • Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Licensed Professional Counselor in the state of Illinois

  • M.S.,  Family Counseling -  Northeastern Illinois University

  • M.S., Secondary Education - Ohio University

  • B.S., Education - Ohio University

Jasmine Gulley Brown, AMFT

I am an Associate Marriage and Family Therapist and graduate of the Northwestern University Marriage and Family Therapist masters degree program. As an African American therapist, my goal is to help people see a light at the end of the tunnel as they go through relationship challenges. I am particularly interested in helping people of color, and my work emphasizes understanding and focus when working with different cultural and racial backgrounds. I deeply understand that relationships aren’t always easy, and know that pain--which can come in many forms--significantly impacts overall well-being, even if the events that caused the pain occurred prior to the start of the relationship.
 
As a current member of the armed forces, I was blessed with the collateral duty of Sexual Assault Victims’ Advocate for the Great Lakes Naval Base. In this role, I gained a greater awareness of the large numbers of people suffering from sexual assault/trauma. I built on the insights I gained in this position to develop my clinical expertise. All of my work is rooted in relational therapy, with an additional focus on helping individuals with a sexual abuse or trauma background to heal and thrive in intimate relationships post-assault. I work collaboratively to help my clients gain awareness of the changes that have come from the trauma; to learn how to navigate, in an intimate way, past the pain in order to allow their partner or future partner into their personal space; and to regain access to their individual power with hopes of a secure relationship in the future.
 
My passion for this work comes from my personal history as a survivor. I know and understand the rollercoaster ride of having trauma change the path of a relationship. Like many other survivors, my marriage has been through the loops of the rollercoaster many times.  With this movement comes realization, awareness, and lessons learned about oneself and how we present with our partner. I use both my clinical skills and personal experience to help couples navigate the lessons while on the rollercoaster with the hope of helping them learn to guide themselves and see when the loops are coming. This then allows them to prepare together and anticipate the lesson so that it is learned faster and the pain is healed in the process more easily.

Specialties

  • Relational Counseling (couples and Individual)

  • Internal Family Systems

  • Sexual Assault Survivors and Trauma

  • Transgenerational

  • Cognitive Behavioral Therapy

  • Psychodynamic

  • Racial Identity

  • Human Development

Training

  • Licensed Associate Marriage and Family Therapist in the State of Illinois
    M.S., Marriage and Family Therapy - Northwestern University
    B.S., Business - University of Phoenix
    A.S., Psychology - University of Phoenix

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